Category Archives for "Tough love"

I turned 33 yesterday. Compared to what Jesus got done, I’m slacking, but I’m trying my best. It’s been eight years since I made a firm decision to change my life for the better. It’s amazing what you can get done when you find something compelling to work on, stay consistent, and never quit. Here […]

Warning: this entire post will trigger you. If you’re easily offended, you have two options here: Be brave. Read through this post to build some mental resilience by stomaching some words that might be true, but will also sting Stop reading now. Seriously, I’ll probably hurt your feelings These rants don’t make me much money […]

Picture the person I’m about to describe and make a prediction about the way his life ended up. Thief, convict, drug dealer. Known for hanging out in seedy clubs, ‘pimping’ women, getting into brawls, and even going so far as allegedly mugging people at gunpoint. With stints in and out of jail prison, he became […]

Some smart people suffer a strange form of torture. Their brain works well and processes information quickly, but their intellect doesn’t translate to the things that make you successful: Smart decision making — Which is in an entirely different universe than being smart Emotional regulation — Smart people often have a horrible time regulating their […]

“I want to punch you.” I’ve received this comment more than a handful of times about my articles. Some people have told me they’re scared to read them. They’ll say something along the lines of, “Your article pissed me off, but you’re right.” I could make a lot more money selling you dreams and telling […]

You tell yourself a staggering amount of lies every day just to cope with living. In a sense, self-deception is a useful survival tool. If you had to spend your entire day being objective about everything in your life, you’d probably be miserable. So, on the one hand, your emotions help you. But, on the […]

Do you ever feel like you have little to no control over your life? Do you ever feel like life is happening to you? Have you ever found yourself in a position where you thought to yourself “How the hell did you get here?” Been there. I’ve made the most massive and dumb mistakes like […]

Every time I read Bukowski, I have several moments where I have that nervous chuckle because he says these phrases that cut straight through the bullshit — they’re so jarring, irreverent, hilarious, and brutally honest at the same time. If you’re not familiar with Bukowski, he’s the quintessential average joe, piece of garbage, nobody type […]

Let’s just call a spade a spade. Many people in our society are just soft. They don’t like working hard and want everything handed to them. And they have a litany of false excuses. The idea of there being no upward mobility is insane.  You have the internet. The great equalizer. The ultimate tool for […]

You have conversations with yourself all the time. Mostly bad ones. Mostly ones where you doubt yourself, beat yourself up and get caught in endless loops of anxiety. Instead of trying to change your nature and stop these thoughts, try to make them productive. You know your mind is going to endlessly race, so at […]