Bashing self-help is all the rage these days. In 2018 (and beyond) it’s cool to be the nonchalant type who doesn’t care about goals, sees competition as inherently evil, thinks self-help is a charlatan’s game and mocks people who want to improve. Let’s just call a spade a spade. They’re full of it. They won’t […]

I’m going to start by confirming a belief about behavior change you already have. You’re destined to fail.  You know this. When January is around the corner you already know you won’t make good on your resolution. You realize things will go down hill the minute you make the oven-banked chicken breast and vegetable meals […]

Have you ever looked at a successful person and wondered if they really earned it or just got lucky? Some levels of success and reward just don’t seem fair. Sure, Jeff Bezos is a smart guy, but does he really deserve to have a net worth of 105 billion dollars? How about the man chasing […]

Chalk this up as one of the worst feelings one can have. You know you could do more with your life. In your imagination, everything works out well — you’re productive, your ideas come to fruition, you get things done. In reality, the opposite is true. That’s the worst part about laziness. You know what […]

Grab your free checklist here: How to Stop Feeling Lost and Figure Out Exactly What to do With Your Life. It’s a proven roadmap anyone can use to change their life even if they feel lost or don’t know exactly what to do next. With the rise of personal development and a generation of people […]

How does a complete nobody get the opportunity to become Elvis Presley’s manager? Jerry Weintraub was an ordinary man with extraordinary dreams. One of those dreams was to become Elvis’s road manager. There were a few problems with his goal. One, Elvis already had a manager he’d be working with for years – the Colonel. […]

Most personal development and success stories are b.s., but they aren’t intended to be. When you succeed, it’s easy to romanticize the process looking backward. You tend to smooth out the rough edges of your story. I write personal development books. I’m in the business of giving advice through my experience, but I can only […]

Hi, my name is Ayo and I have impostor syndrome. A funny thing happens to me each time I “succeed.” When I land a new client, sell a book, get accepted to do a talk, get a new freelance gig, etc — I always feel worse. My stomach forms knots. For a moment, I feel […]

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I’d snapped. After two years of working as a manager at a video store, I’d finally had it. The pay was bad. The customers were rude. I felt trapped and knew I wanted more. I vividly remembered a day where everything went wrong — a Murphy’s law kind of day. I’d gotten so upset I […]