There’s this saying “choose your hard.” It comes from a popular quote: “Marriage is hard. Divorce is hard. Choose your hard. Obesity is hard. Being fit is hard. Choose your hard. Being in debt is hard. Being financially disciplined is hard. Choose your hard. Communication is hard. Not communicating is hard. Choose your hard. Life […]

I’ll start with a little story about guacamole. I’ll tell you how I extracted a bunch of life lessons from a moment at Chipotle and saw deep into someone’s psyche after observing him for five seconds. I’m standing in line and the man in front of me is ordering his food. He gets a steak […]

Let’s flip impostor syndrome on its head. A lot of people are afraid to dream big because they’ll feel like frauds when they get what they want. There’s this concept of ‘fake it until you make it’ that says you should behave in a way you’re unaccustomed to in order to grow into the person […]

If you tell yourself, “I hate my life,” then this guide on teaching you how to stop hating yourself will come in handy. A decent amount of people have sent this exact message to my inbox over the years. They read my work and it makes them comfortable confiding in me. I’ve had people tell […]

Imagine you’re flat broke (maybe some of you don’t have to imagine that). Somehow you manage to get your hands on $10,000. You’d be elated. Now imagine that you manage to get your hands on $100,000. But, through a series of unfortunate events, you lose $80,000, leaving you with $20,000. Would you rather have the […]

In about a month, I’ll be celebrating my seven-year anniversary as a writer. I’ve been writing pretty much every single day, without fail, for a better part of a decade. I’ve published three books, given a TEDx talk, and started a six-figure writing business. Zoom back seven years and change. I’d dropped out of school, […]

“The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat.” Being the rat race doesn’t apply to everyone who works a 9 to 5 job. It simply means you’re in a position where your efforts aren’t going to lead to somewhere you want to be. It’s the process of […]

We’ve been wearing masks long before the pandemic. Think about how much time you spend pretending to be someone else just so you can get along with others, feel a part of society, and avoid rejection and ostracism. Most of the time we pretend to be someone we’re not because we want to avoid the […]

Getting over someone is tough regardless of who ended the relationship. I’d never used the word depressed to describe myself up until that point in my life. But, at this point in my life, I was depressed. The rug had been pulled from underneath me. I’d tell people that it was mutual, but she left […]

“You can wish in one hand and shit in the other. See which one fills up first.” Here’s my beef with the doomsday writers who talk about how society is rigged against you. Many of their diagnoses of the state of society are correct. I actually agree with most of what they say. The key […]