Five years ago, I was a loser. I no longer wanted to be a loser, so I went searching for answers and stumbled across self-improvement. Through luck, divine intervention, I don’t know, I got the opportunity to share what I’d been learning through writing. The rest is history. I’m not perfect, but I’ve learned many […]

I’m going to piss you off a little bit, but it’ll be for your own good, ok? Do you want to know why you’re not getting the outcomes you want in life? Want to know the real reason why you don’t earn as much as you think you deserve, find yourself in a position you […]

Why focus on getting good outcomes in life, at all? Why focus on being great? Instead, why not just be content with what you have right now? I’ve had this debate in my head back and forth, but I always lean to the side of trying to become great at something and, yes, getting the […]

Want to know what I love about writing, both as a writer and a reader? Writing gives you the unique opportunity to take a dispassionate look at your own life. If I’m reading a book about a subject, I can interpret the things I both agree with and disagree with in the book without having […]

Here we are again. Here you are again. Reading yet another article about overcoming obstacles, reaching your goals, doing all the things you’re afraid to do, all the derivatives of the same basic concept. Here’s the good news. I’ve been you. I’ve been the person who’s read constant self-improvement articles, read books, watched videos, listened […]

I have seen every episode of Law and Order SVU. From Stabler and Captain Cragen to Assistant District Attorney Dominick Carisi, J.R. Now? I watch it for fun, downtime after I’m done working for the day. A few years ago, I watched it to cope with my life, keep myself distracted, and do my best to […]

I put quotes around the word “truths” in the headline because who the hell knows, right? When I say truths, I mean what’s true to me and what seems to be true across time for many many people. I put the word ‘can’ in the headline instead of ‘must.’ Why? Because you can do whatever […]

I get it. I get why many people are jaded by the self-improvement industry. There are a ton of gurus out there who bombard you with this image of what a successful life looks like. According to the laws of hyperbolic self-help, you’re not successful unless: You own a six-figure business (ideally, though, you should […]

You’re dumb. So am I. The difference between me and you? I know that I’m dumb, but you don’t. You spend far too much time trying to make sense of the world and make everything fit neatly into your little box — your narrative of the way things should be. This gets you in trouble […]

Are you happy? How can you even tell whether or not you’re happy? How do you know what mixture of the following makes up your definition of happiness: Cultural influence Pleasure Spirituality Ego-validation Material wealth I could go on. Happiness is an oft-debated subject, but there are only two ways to truly be happy in […]