All Posts by AAwosika07

Self-help never saves you in the situations where you need it most. Affirmations aren’t going to work when your spouse leaves you. Tony Robbins won’t instantly cheer you up if you listen to his audio tape after getting fired from your job. Tim Feriss’s morning routine means absolutely nothing to working parents with children. Self-help […]

Self-leadership is the currency of success in 2019 and beyond. What do I mean? There are going to be disproportionate rewards for people who are self-reliant vs. people who need to be told what to do all the time. I have no mentors. All of the work I do is in the roles I created […]

If you want to build a network, an audience, and a tribe of like-minded peers, you need to learn how to influence people. Have you ever noticed somebody in the field you’re in (or aspire to be in) just come out of nowhere? Whenever you see someone make a meteoric rise, know that it’s often […]

Future notorious gangster Henry Hill walks out of the courtroom. He’s greeted by Jimmy Conway, also a notorious gangster. Henry is surprised to see Jimmy smiling. He’d been pinched — arrested for a crime and questioned by the police — after being caught illegally selling cigarettes from the back of a truck. Having, in his mind, […]

Here’s a seemingly dumb question with a counterintuitive answer: Would you rather experience a shorter or longer duration of pain? Stated this way, the answer is obvious, but Nobel Prize winning psychologist Daniel Kahneman conducted an experiment that produced the opposite one. In the first round of the experiment, subjects put their hands in ice cold […]

“The first principle is that you must not fool yourself – and you are the easiest person to fool.” – Richard Feynman You know what I love about books and blog posts? They give you a rare opportunity. What opportunity, you ask? The opportunity to be honest with yourself. See, it’s hard, to be honest with yourself in most other situations. Hell, […]

When was the last time you felt truly excited? Can you even remember? We’re all looking to go on this grand adventure in life. Actually, some of us aren’t. At least that’s what people tell me in the comments section of some of my articles. “Ayo, you don’t understand. Life is not all about living […]

I’m very lazy. I’m a chronic procrastinator. Keeping myself organized is like pulling teeth. In spite of all this, I’ve built a career and life I love. How did I overcome my obstacles? My Simple Secret to Career Success I’ve tried a lot of different routes to success. Most of them failed. I joined more […]

Bashing self-help is all the rage these days. In 2018 (and beyond) it’s cool to be the nonchalant type who doesn’t care about goals, sees competition as inherently evil, thinks self-help is a charlatan’s game and mocks people who want to improve. Let’s just call a spade a spade. They’re full of it. They won’t […]

I’m going to start by confirming a belief about behavior change you already have. You’re destined to fail.  You know this. When January is around the corner you already know you won’t make good on your resolution. You realize things will go down hill the minute you make the oven-banked chicken breast and vegetable meals […]